By Rabbi Yaakov Raskin
Chief Rabbi, Chabad of Jamaica
RECENTLY, ONE of the world’s most famous political commentators hosted a podcast episode that caught my attention. Tucker Carlson, whose YouTube show is one of the most listened-to news and political programmes, hosted comedian Ari Shafir as a guest. During their hour-long conversation, they dedicated a portion to discussing the Seven Noahide Laws. Tucker, with whom I disagree on many issues, shared that the laws are “very reasonable” and seem like a natural approach to morality.
One of the 7 Noahide Laws involves G‑d’s vision for relationships – specifically, respecting the sanctity of marriage. In a world where relationships and marriage are central to personal fulfillment, people are asking more questions and have more concerns than ever. Endless advice has been offered on how to maintain healthy relationships, and an entire industry of counsellors and experts has grown to support this critical area of life.
But what I’ve noticed is that relationships are most frequently viewed through the lens of personal fulfillment. People want to find someone who “makes them happy” or “meets their needs”. While this is understandable, it misses an essential aspect of relationships – selflessness. Focusing not just on what we receive but also on what we give is what leads to deeper, more meaningful connections.
Jewish tradition teaches that relationships are not just about fulfilling individual desires but are meant to serve a higher purpose. Every relationship has three partners: man, woman, and G‑d. When we view relationships this way, we transform them from something ordinary into something sacred. By respecting the sanctity of marriage, we invite G‑d into our lives, elevating the relationship beyond just two people into a partnership that has the power to bring holiness into the world.